Mistakes Men Make

The timeless wisdom always says that Man's true wealth is not in what he has but what he is. Very truly it is the person that matters and not the wealth that he has in his banks. Every individual comes on earth to live a fulfilled, happy and peaceful life leading to his natural evolution. This becomes possible only when there is harmony within and without. To be happy is to be peaceful. To be peaceful is to be in harmony with oneself and with the others around as well as being harmonious with the environment and nature etc.

Man is not a physical being alone, but a soul consciousness who has descended into the body consciousness. This is the reason why we are affected by what happens to our body as well as what happens to our mind and consciousness. When sickness or ill health invades our physical body, we suffer. When our mind and heart are not well or are not in harmony and peace, mental sickness results. Mental sickness is far more serious than physical sickness for it robs man of his faculties and thinking process thus leading to aberrations in his thoughts and actions as well as behavior.

Doctors all over the world talk of increase in the number of mental illness patients. It is believed that men tend to suffer more now days from mental illness than women. Some cases of mental illness can be genetic as in the case of schizophrenia and clinical depression etc. However in majority of the cases the depression can be caused by the disharmony between the self and the external environment or life.

Depression and psychological problems in men are not detectable easily. Their normal aggressive and macho behavior which is stereo typed gives very less clue to the existence of a depression. However women and other family members who are sensitive can detect a change in the mood and behavior of the person and know that there is an under lying problem that exists. Causes for depression can be many. Today's urban life is stressful and demands peak performance from everyone all the time. There is no time for man to enjoy his life. Rather everyone is always being driven to chase one goal or another. When one fails to keep up and begins to feel anxious and pressurized, the resultant reaction can be a negative or sad feeling of failure causing depression. Men are expected to be the providers and are expected to be the stronger ones. Hence they carry the burden of having to camouflage their feelings and not show their weakness externally and this adds to their burden.

When depression goes undetected for a long period, it results in aggressive behavior, indulgence in drinking, violence as well as womanizing. Such irrational behavior results in the breakup of relationship and family pushing the man further into problems. In many cases the divorces are caused due to the depression and mental health of the man and his future life gets affected by his divorce. Men who are attached to their family and children find themselves lost like a rudderless boat. Being at lose end they take to drinking and losing control over their life as well as over their career and go down the path of self destruction. As it happens, the cause of the problem being the depression is never diagnosed but they blame their divorce and the split from their children and wife to be the reason for their sorry state of affairs.

It is time for each and every man to rethink of his priorities in life and to recognize what it is that makes him happy and avoid falling prey to depression at all costs.






Man is not a physical being alone, but a soul consciousness who has descended into the body consciousness. This is the reason why we are affected by what happens to our body as well as what happens to our mind and consciousness.